I'm a sexuality educator, relationship coach and retired couples counselor and sex therapist supporting relationships all over the world.
I love love, in all its forms
I've helped thousands of couples explore sexuality with connection and courage, and build sustainable trusting partnerships.
My clients learn communication skills to open their relationships, practice ethical non-monogamy, and handle conflict with compassion.
Currently, I'm working mainly with couples new to non-monogamy or open relationships. I love helping people create trust and negotiate mutually-agreeable visions of a less traditional relationship structure.
Let's talk about sex
As a trained sex-educator I love helping people overcome shame and communication blocks around sexuality. I've helped hundreds of couples through sexual disconnection and mismatch. I also provide newly kinky couples and long-time BDSM practitioners with sex-positive support.
All relationships are welcome
Not all my clients are queer, kinky, or consensually non-monogamous, but even more traditional couples appreciate my breadth of knowledge, open-mindedness, and warm demeanor.
If you’re interested in taking this work further contact me for a free consultation.
CHOOSING THE RIGHT SUPPORT
Finding the right provider is especially important for LGBTQ couples, non-monogamous couples, and sex-positive community members. All too often I work with clients after they have had negative experiences with well-intentioned professionals who just didn't understand their unique needs.
Check out these recommended resources to help you find the right professional provider in Portland, Oregon.
NOT YOUR AVERAGE COACH
Not only do I have professional training in coaching, but I earned a masters degree in education and in counseling and a PhD in pastoral counseling. This means I studied couples counseling in formal college programs for five years and completed 2500 hours of professionally supervised couples counseling sessions. I wrote my dissertation on the application of couples counseling techniques to consensually non-monogamous relationships.
During that time I had the honor of studying under one of the most respected experts in couples therapy, John Gottman, and I interned at the Seattle Counseling Center for Sexual Minorities, where I worked exclusively with queer and kinky relationships. When I moved to Oregon I completed over 2000 more client hours toward my Sex Therapist credential and state licensure as a marriage and family therapist (before I closed my therapy practice to focus on coaching).
What I'm saying is, I've invested a lot of time learning to support clients and teach communication skills to a wide range of unique relationships.
Most coaches have little to no professional training or educational experience.
I have years of both.
Though I no longer treat mental health disorders as a psychotherapist, I draw upon my background in therapy as a foundation for our work together. This foundation creates a solid base for your learning and growth in coaching unlike any other.
CREDENTIALED COACHING MAKES A DIFFERENCE
In addition to my counseling training, I'm a credentialed coach and a member of the International Coach Federation. This means there's a code of ethics guarding the work we do- and protecting your privacy.
If you’ve tried therapy and stuck to it… but you're ready to apply the skills learned coaching might be right for you.
Counseling is important reflective healing work, but my clients come to me hoping to take action for change. That's where coaching comes in.
Counseling (the "assessment and treatment of mental health disorders") is about asking why something is happening. Coaching doesn't assess or treat these disorders- my clients are healthy. Instead we ask what you want to do differently. How do you want to change?
Many of my clients still see individual therapists for support on their own. I am happy to have you sign a release to allow me to talk with your therapist so we can collaboratively support your wellness if you wish.
I'm also a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. As a member I agree to continuing my education in psychology and human relations and to uphold their ethics code in my work.
In 2018 alone I completed over 50 hours of AASECT-approved sexuality counseling professional training.
All these memberships are in place to protect, reassure, and support you as my client knowing I follow ethical boundaries and maintain my professional education.
TAKE A COURSE WITH ME:
I created several relationship foundation courses that could help couples at nearly any stage secure their base and reaffirm their connections. Click the images below for more information.