When I work with couples considering opening their relationships most are overwhelmed at the idea of opening up simply because they can't imagine what that will look like.
Will we see three people?
Will we date together?
What will we call it?
As you know, healthy non-monogamy usually includes some flow and flexibility as your relationship needs (and the needs of each new partner) get added to the mix, grow, and change. Relationships are ever-evolving, and non-monogamous ones have more variables to contend with.
I found a diagram online I love because it outlines most the main options people employ when practicing ethical non-monogamy. I'm pasting it below as a reference to all of you. I hope it helps!
And, of course, if you want to talk through the options and sort out which might be best for you give me a call, I'd love to support you on this journey.
A VENN DIAGRAM OF POLYAMOROUS RELATIONSHIPS
Hi! I'm glad you're reading. Let me know if I can help you:
- open your relationship & practice polyamory with integrity
- move beyond jealousy, fear, and insecurity
- manage intense emotions that arise in conflicts
- rebuild trust after infidelity or dishonesty
- shift stuck communication & codependent relationship patterns
I lead couples retreats, host workshops, and see private clients online and in Portland, Oregon. Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.
Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.