You Asked, I Answered: How to Get Over an Affair?

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Lots of folks find me right after discovering their partner is having an affair. Here are some of the questions they ask.  

Read more of the most frequently asked questions by my clients here

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Can we get through this affair?

Even couple takes a different route through infidelity.  Some of my couples choose to split up- and in those cases I help them do so with respect and kindness.  

Most of my couples choose to stay together and though it isn't easy many of them make it through.  We work to repair broken trust and create communication that works for both of you moving forward.

Is infidelity normal?

Affairs happen in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.  Estimates range between 60% and 80% of all ("monogamous")couples experience infidelity.  So yeah, infidelity is pretty common. 

If you're asking is it normal to feel this way, please know it is completely "normal" to feel a lot of intense and conflicting feelings whether you are the partner who has an affair or the one who didn't.  Your feelings are valid.  Let me help you work through them with integrity.

I've helped hundreds of couples move forward after an affair.  I can help you repair trust no matter what you've been through. Set up a free consultation to see if we're a good match to work together.

I get asked a lot of great questions about my work.  Here's a short list of the most commonly asked questions from people who are recovering after an affair.  Read on to learn more.

Read more of the most frequently asked questions by my clients here

I feel crazy/overwhelmed after finding out my sweetheart/partner/spouse cheated.  Will this emotional roller coaster ever go away?

Finding out you've been betrayed brings up a surprising amount of intense emotions. Often they arise when we least expect and even more often they feel out of control. I offer this information to tell you you are not alone. Not at all.  

I've helped hundreds of folks get through all this intensity and I'm happy to help you stay grounded and clear so you can make decisions from a place of wisdom and connection- instead of unpredictable reactivity.

How do we rebuild trust?

I know the feelings that come up when trust is broken are intense and hard to sit with- but rebuilding trust takes time.  I recommend working with a professional to help you get a solid foundation laid or to patch cracks in that foundation with care.  I'm happy to talk more specifically about what you might need to build trust in a free consultation.

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She can help you:

  • rediscover passion in long-term relationships
  • repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move past jealousy, insecurity or codependent patterns
  • open your relationship or practice polyamory with care
  • resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
  • break unhealthy communication patterns in your relationship

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).