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Negotiating Successful Agreements in Open Relationships

Negotiating agreements in open relationships

Hey y'all!

Just a quick SUPER EXCITING announcement (and an explanation on why I haven't been blogging as much) for you.  

Not only did I become a parent very suddenly and unexpectedly this year, but I have been working really hard to meet a publishing deadline for my book: Negotiating Successful Agreements in Open Relationships.  

Every time I meet with a new client it becomes more clear just how needed this resource is in the world so I've been working my tail off this summer to bring it forth.  It'll be out in a couple months.  

In the meantime, I wanted to share the purpose behind this work for those of you who are interested. Here's the deal: there are a FEW great books sharing basic vocabulary and compelling stories of folks living non-monogamous lifestyles... but there are NONE that really outlining the nuts-and-bolts HOW to manage the day-to-day in an open relationship.  

If you're like most my clients you've read tons of blogs and the three big books on polyamory or non-monogamy and they may have been triggering and affirming in many different ways.  

But after talking through the decision-making and negotiation process with thousands of couples it's clear- the books and blogs are great- but they just don't help you with the HOW part when emotions run hot.  

AND while some of those books and blogs are written by great people who've been practicing nonmonogamy for a while- many of them have no expertise or training in relationships.   

So that's where this book comes in.  I'm bringing ten years professional experience and research on successful open relationships to the table as well as my training in couples counseling to help readers access proven tools for navigating open relationships- and staying together.  

Here's what you'll walk away with:

  • Preparation for agreement negotiation: what you need to do before you even start the conversation& how to know if you’re ready

  • Keys to successful agreements: well-researched formulas for staying together with partners as you open your relationship. 

  • Tools to make solid agreements and change them as you grow together over time.

  • The most important considerations for maintaining respect, desire, and care when beginning your open relationship.

  • The skills you need to manage jealousy and insecurity in healthy ways.

  • Awareness of the most common pitfalls when beginning an open relationship.

  • A process for conflict resolution and care that’s neither codependent nor callous. 

  • A solid baseline for balancing healthy boundaries and connectedness.

  • Tools to stay connected to your original partner while developing new relationships.

  • Skills to communicate in meaningful positive ways through potentially rocky times.

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negotiating successful polyamory agreements

Hi!  I'm glad you're reading.  Let me know if I can help you:

  • reconnect with passion & desire in long-term partnerships
  • rebuild trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move beyond jealousy, fear, and insecurity 
  • manage intense emotions that arise in conflicts
  • resolve sexual dysfunction & disconnect
  • change communication & codependent patterns
  • open your relationship & practice polyamory with integrity

I lead couples retreats, host workshops, and see private clients online (and in Portland, OR).

Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.

Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.