Relationships with room for learning and growth are more fulfilling over time.
The couples I see stay together keep learning alive in three key ways:
Couples Who Learn on Their Own
Staying connected to your own passions and interests is critical to the long-term success of your relationship. Of course it's easy to set aside your independence early in a relationship when you're caught up in new relationship energy- but to stay together long-term each of your individual wellness needs to be fostered.
Get out and try something new, get creative, read a book- just for you. It can significantly improve the health of your connection.
Couples Who Learn Together
One of the great parts of starting a new relationship is all the excitement that comes from learning together. Every date with a new person is about discovery and exploration. And that newness is intoxicating.
Over time we stop discovering together- and that is some of why passion and excitement can wane. Commit to learning together to keep discovery and fascination alive.
Many of my couples make a bucket list of things they want to learn - together and independently- from wine tasting, to tango, pottery to poker, they create a long list of possibilities to draw from. Once the list is created (without editing) you can decide together which you want to commit to trying out now.
Try something new together this weekend, learn together and watch your love grow.
Hi! I'm glad you're reading. Let me know if I can help you:
- reconnect with passion in your long-term relationship
- repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
- move beyond jealousy, fear, and insecurity
- resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
- change unhealthy communication and codependent patterns
- open your relationship and practice polyamory with care
Call me for a free consultation to rethink your relationship.
Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.