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50-70% of all couples (monogamous and otherwise) experience infidelity 

If an affair has just been revealed in your relationship odds are you feel totally overwhelmed, shocked and really concerned about where the future will take you.  

Most folks I talk with are losing sleep or worrying endlessly. They’re having repetitive conversations and cyclical arguments with their sweethearts.

They feel wrecked with guilt, and confusion, shame, jealousy, rage, and betrayal- and it’s really hard to see a way forward.  

Here's what I want you to know:

You can get through this.

Most  couples who work with me after an affair are sorting through a lot of intense feelings and a lot of mixed advice on what to do next.  I use my experience and expertise in this field to support you in finding clarity and moving forward with integrity.

Jealousy is my speciality.

I have helped hundreds of people online and in person work through feelings of jealousy and insecurity that arise as a result of infidelity. If you're experiencing intense feelings of anger, jealousy, sadness, fear, or confusion please know this is a really common reaction to what you're going through.

I’m here to support you through it- so you feel in control instead of feeling like your emotions are controlling you.

I'm not here to judge.  

Usually the people I work with who have had an affair feel a lot of shame or guilt.  I am not here to add to the pile of shame you're experiencing.  My goal is to help you sort through the feelings you're having to move forward. 

Many folks aren’t sure if they’ll stay together after infidelity. I can help you reconnect with your personal values and choose a path forward with compassion- together or not.

I didn’t know how we would make it through after [my wife] caught me cheating. We were so stuck when we first met Gina and I think we both thought it was over.
It took some time, but it feels like we’re friends again.
— Rob & Lindsey, Camas, WA


I lead three online courses related to infidelity repair you may find useful in tandem with our work, or before you begin coaching. Click the images below to learn more:

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  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action (I've been described as "direct and not-coddling")

  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already too much of that in the world)

  • Assume your experience is the same as anyone else's

  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use)

  • Support couples who are actively violent with one another- your safety needs to come first, then our work together can begin


  • Bring a decade of experience helping folks build and rebuild trust to your service

  • Help you listen and communicate effectively to get out of repetitive arguments

  • Identify ways to manage really intense emotions

  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow in a positive direction

  • Develop an individualized plan to change the relationship patterns that brought you here

  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful

I’ve never felt so bad as when my husband found out I was having an affair. It was awful. We fought all the time and never slept.
[Gina] got us both grounded again so we made up and moved on.
— Tori & Chris, Milwaukee, OR
We’re back together. I’d say that’s a success.
I didn’t know if it would happen. And I definitely didn’t think it could be this good again.
— Michelle & Darla, San Jose, CA
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I've been blogging about relationships for a long time.  Check out some of the most-read about trust and affairs here:

When we came [to see Gina] it felt like we were each doing our own thing. Now it feels like this is something we’re doing together... something that will bring us even closer. It was really good for me to have a facilitator help me move from scarcity and fear to connection
— Alissa & Stephanie, Seattle, WA
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Can we get through this affair?

Even couple takes a different route through infidelity.  Some of my couples choose to split up- and in those cases I help them do so with respect and kindness.  

Most of my couples choose to stay together and though it isn't easy many of them make it through.  We work to repair broken trust and create communication that works for both of you moving forward.

Is infidelity normal?

Affairs happen in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.  Estimates range between 60% (monogamous couples) and 80% of all couples experience infidelity.  So yeah, infidelity is pretty common. 

If you're asking is it normal to feel this way, please know it is completely "normal" to feel a lot of intense and conflicting feelings whether you are the partner who has an affair or the one who didn't.  Your feelings are valid.  Let me help you work through them with integrity.

I work with couples to rebuild trust and overcome jealousy in weekly meetings. I’ve helped hundreds of couples move forward after an affair.  

Should we break up?

I wish I could answer for you. Instead, what I offer is a space and support to help you get clear about any possible way forward, a repair plan of sorts, so you can determine if you have the energy and strength to resolve what happened and make the necessary changes in your relationship to move forward (together or not).

I feel like a crazy person. Why am I so jealous?

Even some of the most calm, self-aware, highly skilled communicators I have worked with experience really unexpected reactive emotions after an affair. Give yourself compassion and space to work through those emotions without hurting yourself or those around you. I’m here to help you do just that.

I'm can help you repair trust no matter what you've been through.  

Set up a free consultation to see if we're a good match to work together.

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I often refer to these three favorite books when working with folks after infidelity.  Click the book's  image to order your own copy. 

Note: These books are heterocentric and monogamy-based.  But the material can still be applied to pairs/diads in non-monogamous relationships.

Read something great?  I'm always looking for suggestions. Send your book recommendations to

When we started working with Gina I wasn’t sure we would make it through. She got us back on the same team after we hadn’t really been talking for at least six years.
— Jade & Jesse, Troutdale, OR
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Dr. Gina Senarighi, PhD, CPC is a certified relationship coach, retreat leader, speaker, and author specializing in human connection, intimacy, authenticity, shame-resilience, and alternative relationships. For over twelve years she has supported hundreds of clients creating fulfilling integrity-based relationships according to their own rules.

She earned her Master of Arts degree in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2010 from Saybrook University. She received her Bachelor degree in Education from the University of Wisconsin in 2002 and a Masters of Science in Education with a minor in Human Sexuality from Indiana University in 2004. In 2019 she completed her PhD in Spiritual Studies and Pastoral Counseling.

Gina was named Portland’s Best Life Coach in 2019 by Portland Business Recognition and has taught psychology courses, communication workshops, couples intimacy retreats, and guest lectured on alternative relationships and sex-positive therapy at universities across the US. Students love her no nonsense “real talk” presentation style.

Gina knows with better relationship and sex education we’d build a more compassionate, creative, confident, and fulfilled society.  She believes we are entitled to desire and we all need meaningfully connected relationships to thrive. She knows all relationships need a tune-up from time to time and has been praised by clients for her friendly non-judgmental approach to couples work. 

She understands first-hand the struggles non-traditional couples and “alternative relationships” face as they navigate the abundant joys and challenges that come with a less traveled path. Her clients span the globe and a full spectrum of relationship possibilities.

When she’s not teaching, coaching or consulting you can find her in her gorgeous urban garden, hiking Door County with her tiny dog, cooking lavish dinners, playing with her two sweet kids, or traveling the world with her partner, Rae.


Whether you’re facing communication issues, starting a project together, rethinking your future, or struggling with intimacy, I’m here to help you gain the tools you need to move forward with confidence.

I love love in all it's forms.  Non-traditional relationships have been my specialty for over a decade. There’s no judgment here.

I've been coaching couples all over the world leading retreats and guiding clients to deeper, more authentic connection with themselves and each other.  Most recently I’ve been supporting couples who are co-founders, creatives, and entrepreneurs with world-changing dreams create life balance and maintain connection amid busy lives.

I'm happy to help you love with intention.  Join my free monthly relationship masterclass, connect with me on social media or schedule a free consultation to learn more.