Being a sex-positive provider & kink-knowledgeable professional...
There are very few practitioners with training and experience to help clients with unique sexual desires without shaming them.
All too often I meet with clients who've been to see another professional and had a negative experience. Even if you don't decide to work with me- please do shop around. Ask your questions- any great supportive professional will be willing to talk with you.
To me, being kink-knowledgable means I have training and education in human sexuality that includes kink, fetish, power exchange, BDSM, and other less traditional life and relationship styles.
Being a sex-positive provider means I don't have judgment about your sexuality no matter what your fantasy and I will support your exploration as long as it is based in consent.
I've supported clients who express many diverse interests including:
couples who met by arrangement
sex workers who began dating clients
doms and subs
tops & bottoms
and so many more interests than I can list here...
RELATED ONLINE COURSES
No matter your relationship structure, some of the same foundational issues can arise. I designed the courses below as a DIY way to work on your relationship in addition to coaching or in preparation. Click the images for more information.
Here are a couple episodes that may be of interest:
YOUR FREE SEX-POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS DOWNLOADS
I'm listed among respected colleagues on the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Kink Aware Providers List, the Poly Professionals Directory and the Open List of Poly-Aware Professionals.
"The sex-positive movement is a social movement which promotes and embraces sexuality with few limits beyond an emphasis on safe sex and the importance of consent. Sex positivity is "an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation.
The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and safer sex as part of its campaign." The movement generally makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual activities, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference."
- Definition from Wikipedia
KINK-AWARE PROFESSIONAL PROVIDER DEFINITION:
"[Providers who] have specific knowledge of kink concepts and lifestyles, have researched and educated themselves in these areas. May have some previous experience providing professional services to individuals with these interests."
I've been writing about sex positivity n relationships for a long time. Click the images below to read a few of my articles.
WHAT I DO
Use a sex-positive framework and vast knowledge of healthy sexuality to support your relationship
Understand the unique dynamics and issues that arise for sex-positive couples (based both in lived and professional experience)
Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow in a positive direction
Develop an individualized plan to change the way you do relationships
Help you listen, build trust, negotiate and communicate effectively with yourself and those you love
Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful
WHAT I DON'T DO
Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action (I've been described as "direct and not-coddling")
Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already too much of that in the world)
Deem your kink, fetish, desire or fantasy wrong, abnormal, or unhealthy (so long as you only enact fantasies with consenting adults or on your own)Assume your queer experience is the same as my own
Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use)
Support couples who are actively violent with one another- your safety needs to come first, then our work together can begin
What is a sex-positive provider?
Not all my clients engage in sex-positive community, or sexual play but for some of my clients it is especially important to know I have ten years expertise in working with clients from BDSM, fetish, and other kink scenes.
This is important because there are a lot of well-intended professionals who will tell you they are sex-positive, but just having a sex-positive philosophy isn't enough- if you work with me you have someone with the philosophy, the skills, and the knowledge.
What if we're new to BDSM, kink, and/or don't know where to begin?
I work with a lot of clients who are just beginning to get creative and explore their sexuality. Some of them just finished reading Fifty Shades of Grey, and others have held secret fantasies for years and are just now opening up to their partner.
I'll meet with you to help you determine an integrity-based path that supports your physical and emotional health as well as your desires.
What if only one of us is kinky?
Many couples choose to work with me when one partner is interested in kink and the other is not. Let me help you figure out a path that is right for both of you.
It can be helpful to work with a knowledgeable and non-judgmental professional to discuss and negotiate new sexual territory.
Do you work with sex-workers?
Yup. If you want to know more about how I can support you in maintaining your work/life balance schedule a consultation so we can chat.
Are you kinky?
I think most people have some creative desires, and I am certainly a creative person but I won't share my specific desires or sexual activities with you because the focus of our work is on you- not me.
Do you work with vanilla couples too?
Absolutely! Even clients who follow more traditional sexual and sensual practices often find comfort knowing this is a specialty of mine.
These clients love working with me because I apply the same open non-judgmental approach to my work with all couples- no matter how kinky.
I've referred to the following books numerous times in my sex counseling work with clients. Click the image to order your own copy.
Read something great? I'm always looking for suggestions. Send your book recommendations to email@example.com.
Dr. Gina Senarighi, PhD, CPC is a certified relationship coach, retreat leader, speaker, and author specializing in human connection, intimacy, authenticity, shame-resilience, and alternative relationships. For over twelve years she has supported hundreds of clients creating fulfilling integrity-based relationships according to their own rules.
She earned her Master of Arts degree in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2010 from Saybrook University. She received her Bachelor degree in Education from the University of Wisconsin in 2002 and a Masters of Science in Education with a minor in Human Sexuality from Indiana University in 2004. In 2019 she completed her PhD in Spiritual Studies and Pastoral Counseling.
Gina was named Portland’s Best Life Coach in 2019 by Portland Business Recognition and has taught psychology courses, communication workshops, couples intimacy retreats, and guest lectured on alternative relationships and sex-positive therapy at universities across the US. Students love her no nonsense “real talk” presentation style.
Gina knows with better relationship and sex education we’d build a more compassionate, creative, confident, and fulfilled society. She believes we are entitled to desire and we all need meaningfully connected relationships to thrive. She knows all relationships need a tune-up from time to time and has been praised by clients for her friendly non-judgmental approach to couples work.
She understands first-hand the struggles non-traditional couples and “alternative relationships” face as they navigate the abundant joys and challenges that come with a less traveled path. Her clients span the globe and a full spectrum of relationship possibilities.
When she’s not teaching, coaching or consulting you can find her in her gorgeous urban garden, hiking Door County with her tiny dog, cooking lavish dinners, playing with her two sweet kids, or traveling the world with her partner, Rae.
A NOTE FROM GINA:
Whether you’re facing communication issues, starting a project together, rethinking your future, or struggling with intimacy, I’m here to help you gain the tools you need to move forward with confidence.
I love love in all it's forms. Non-traditional relationships have been my specialty for over a decade. There’s no judgment here.
I've been coaching couples all over the world leading retreats and guiding clients to deeper, more authentic connection with themselves and each other. Most recently I’ve been supporting couples who are co-founders, creatives, and entrepreneurs with world-changing dreams create life balance and maintain connection amid busy lives.